VD Part 2

Thank you my responders and lurking readers.  I was very interested to see where this little idea would go......  So now, I answer, as promised.....

The previous post was based on a a conversation I had with 3 women a couple of summers ago.  All had been through the wringer emotionally, and felt that there must be something better.  Someone posed the question, “But what if there isn’t?”  We all laughed, then frowned, then sighed, as we wondered, “Could that be true? It can’t be, can it?”

We want to think of love as being just like the nice little package of chocolates sitting on the counter.  It’s pretty, it smells delicious, it’s full of variety. (Unless of course you just bought the chocolate covered cherries, which is totally okay, if that’s how you like it.)  That box of chocolates is great!  Look at how many different ways you can have chocolate?  Life truly is like a box of chocolates.... We look forward to each days’ adventure.

Here’s what I wanted to see:  Romance and love are on everybody’s mind this weekend, with the biggest Hallmark holiday of the year on Monday. (I’ll be spending Valentines Day getting a complete physical, with blood work and a prostate exam.  Hope I get kissed first.)  I wondered what people might have to say about that “crazy little thing called love”.

I must say, I am most impressed with you readers who chose to post.  Wonderful words from each of you!  But I found a common thread.....   There’s MORE to life long love than fireworks, fireflies and tequila.....  It is full of moments that you might read in every blog across the interwebs..... Dirty diapers, leaky roofs, the car breaking down in the middle of nowhere.....  But it’s also full of stories about extending a welcome hand, a shoulder to cry on, a positive voice encouraging you to ‘do the hard thing’ when the easy thing would be to give up.

We, as humans, have the desire to be passionate about something.  Maybe it’s your hobby.  Maybe it’s your blog, or coaching little league sports. Why not be passionate about all those little things that make up a great relationship?  It appears some of you are, as you laid out your perspective on that exact topic yesterday.  It’s passion that we look for, and it’s different for each person, and each couple.  It’s passion that makes us savor every moment with our significant others, as it may be our last chance to soak in a sunset with them.  We are passionate about spending time WITH them, no matter what we do together.  We are passionate about them, as we are their cheerleaders, their therapists, their best friends, and their favorite comics, when they need a little laugh.  Love is complicated, volatile, confusing, frustrating, and so worth it!